Dear lightworkers, teachers, coaches, healers, and counselors, How is your relationship with money? Complicated? Unhealthy? Elusive?
For my entire life without realizing it I felt like money wasn’t for me. Everyone else could have it, make it, save it, but not me. I was destined to always just be scraping by, living paycheck-to-paycheck, and never able to afford the life that I dreamed of where I could travel the world AND still be able to do exactly the work I wanted to and that I was called to do. In my mind, the alternative to being broke was to slave away at an office job that I hated for the rest of my life.
In our society, and especially in the healing arts world, it’s not generally acceptable to want money. I used to think that if I was meant to have money, it would come to me at the right time. Therefore if I didn’t have money, I must be doing something wrong. Maybe I’m not meant to do this work? Maybe I suck at it? Maybe I don’t know enough? Maybe I’m not old enough to be living my dream life AND make money doing it?
So many questions! I kept looking to the “authority figures” in my life: parents, teachers, mentors. I kept getting the same answer in different forms: “Keep working hard and it’ll all work out…but maybe get another job just for right now…” Very well meaning but not very helpful. My friends and colleagues were in a similar situation. We’re all trying to follow our BIG dreams, all the while struggling to pay our rent and feed ourselves. So many of us are stuck in this poverty mentality, looking for ways to cut our already-relatively-low costs. (Yes, we eat at Whole Foods but we can make that bag of organic brown rice last for weeks!) At the same time I’d look at friends I graduated college with who were working in a more traditional career and were able to afford the things they needed but whose souls weren’t being fed. I wondered what their dreams were made of.
But can you imagine what would happen if all the wealth of the world was in the hands of the spiritually-centered? If people were able to live their dream life? The one we’ve been told is out of our reach because we’re not following the traditional path from college graduation to a job with a salary and a 401k? What if everything you dream for yourself is possible and it all starts with healing your money story? What if the things you’ve believed about your inability to make money, your limiting beliefs, were UNTRUE and you could do something that honored your values, passions, and talents? Something that feeds your soul and makes you as much money as you want?
The first step to healing your money drama and to start making real money and living your dream is by doing the inner work. Recognize patterns that you’re stuck in. Release your story and be done with it. Stop being a victim of your money, because money is ENERGY. Energy is not good or bad, it just is. It’s not elusive. There’s a flow, an exchange, like an inhale and exhale. When we start feeling bad for spending money on things that support us (like healthy food and self-care), it creates a low-level vibration: shame. It feels icky. So here is my challenge to you. Start noticing the stories, the thoughts, the patterns you have around money. It can feel uncomfortable and scary at first. There will be a voice telling you that your big dreams, your visions for the way you want your life to look aren’t possible. It’s ok to be scared. Do it anyway. Many times this is your wounded child showing up, vulnerable and small, because that’s the only way we know. When this happens, love him/her up instead of trying to push this discomfort away, and then merge this wounded child with your higher vision. Give all your fear, vulnerability, and limiting beliefs up to the divine, and watch yourself take off.